SPOT 7 Experiences and advice from a Step Mom in training

Monthly Archives: June 2011

Planning the wedding, Oy!

I eloped with my late husband, so I’d never had a wedding before.  I thought it would be nice to have one and it was important to my fiance’ that ours be a union recognized by his church.  We knew this was going to be a special time for us and we wanted the kids […]

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Involved Step Mom…or not?

There are two ways you can go here, assuming a shared custody situation like we have.  Of course if they live with you full time for some reason many of the anxiety producing aspects of being a Step Mom may not apply to you necessarily.  Otherwise, these children are either visitors in your home or […]

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Sports…..what the….

Now, I enjoy watching college basketball, I enjoy watching football, baseball and all that.  I’ve even held a golf club in my hand a few times, used to ice skate, but I didn’t grow up playing team sports.  Therefore I was ill equipped to help lead this group of kids who were all on not […]

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Visitation Schedules…aka “The Arrangement”

If you are in a shared custody situation, then you no doubt will have some sort of visitation schedule in place.  Oh man, this takes getting used to.  Everything in your life is about to revolve around that schedule.  I was lucky my C-section timed out right!  Seriously, I mean that! Now in all fairness, […]

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They’re moving in!!!

Once we got engaged we decided that we should go ahead and move into one house after school was out for the summer.  This would allow us to get the kids settled in before school started again in the fall.  Since the house I was living in was bigger, we decided to move them all […]

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We’re Engaged!! How do we tell the kids?

The kids’ Dad proposed to me on a Christmas day.  He had the kids Christmas Eve that year and asked that I come be a part of prepping for Christmas morning and stay that night so I could see them get up to open their gifts.  The girls were pretty little still and had a […]

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Perspectives of Two Women

There’s an old joke which says the Chinese symbol for trouble is two women under the same roof.  While nothing I can find says this character actually exists, we all know that it is a delicate situation to have two females involved in much of anything. The relationship between a birth Mother and the woman […]

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Things are getting serious..

Pretty quickly we realized that our relationship was getting serious.  At the ages the kids’ Dad and I were, I guess we felt like we didn’t want to go any slower than we did.  It was a lot of change very quickly for the children though.  All of a sudden there was someone else to […]

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The kids’ Mother…aka The ex

Your guy’s relationship with his ex-wife will either be ok or it won’t.  My husband and his ex-wife have had ups and downs but time is healing things.  I have now been in this family for over 5 years and I can say it’s a lot smoother than it had been.  This is probably one […]

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